CROSS MY ART AND HOPE TO FLY....

Monday, January 28, 2013

Hiatus

Well now... let's see if I remember how to do this......

I've never wanted to blog "down" so to speak... that's one of the reasons I haven't posted here. I'm not a good fake happy  person. I can manage it from time to time... like at a house party or a resturant dinner, but not here. I've always written from the heart when I post here.

So I thought jeez silly... it's just real life, so what the heck... we all have our woes, and times of trouble, realizing all the while, my problems are petty in comparison to sooooo many other people in the world, this I know and am grateful for.

Of course.. everyones's problems are relative to their own lives and circumstances, and there's no need to apologise for them or the crappy feelings that come along with them. Life has problems! Every single solitary person has their own and can relate to this subject matter. So why not write about it? Why not write from the heart about it...


I feel vulnerable, and humbled... but will  bravely and plainly say... this last year has been the hardest yet in my 47 years.
My husband and I have had numerous hardships to deal with, many being crammed down our throats one right after the other, or even at the same time... with numerous challenges to overcome ahead of us. We are having to adjust to many new situations we find ourselves faced with, and we are finally coming around to doing that peacefully.
None of this has been between us personally, we are stronger than ever in spite of our circumstances, and actually more so because of them.

But as one might imagine... the experiences from this past year has often led me down the indigo path quite a ways.... I've been " in the red" emotionally on and off so much and in turn this has left me feeling void creatively, with a lack of inspiration and motivation on many levels.

Not totally without, just not enough to spare or share, if that makes any sense?

Some of you who may read this know this past year I had a very difficult time taking care of two wonderful.....but aging and ailing Jack Russell's that meant the world to me.
At times I was basically house bound with them for numerous reasons and we knew our time to do the right thing for them was coming soon. The thought of having to "schedule" such a thing was more heart wrenching than we could bear.... but all the while knowing that's what we had to do. It's been 9 months and my heart still bleeds everyday...

Cobia dealt with the blindness fairly well at first ,especially for an OCD type of dog. She had cataract surgery and it was successful but only lasted for about 6 months. Poor sweet thing didn't do so well losing her sight the second time, and after about another year she began circle walking alot. But it got worse and soon all she did was walk in tight circles any time she was up. The sweet little soul was just held hostage in her own personal torture chamber and I couldn't bear it for her.
The sore above her eye was from bonking her noodle over and over in the same spot : (


poor thing got sooooo skinny too : (


Just the sweetest girl....

I think we relate to dogs just like we do people in our lives... you know how we have a different chemistry or connections with different people?  Or we love them differently but not less than... simply due to the different inherent nature of people.  Devil has always somehow been different for me.

 I love my Cobia like crazy mad as well... she was certainly the sweetest natured of them all. (AxL is justa' hot mess)  But from the first day I got Dev... I felt something different about her. And I found it the hardest thing  for me to do... to fathom the thought of  her not being with me anymore.



Old age caught up with her, and her "ruff and tuff" lifestyle.... no holds bar was the way she rolled... and her 16 year old spine was giving up on her because of it. (surprised it held up that long) The dog ran up a trees, launching over a 6 foot fences FLYING up and over, getting at least 12 feet in the air I swear! And that's just a glimps of her type of escapades....there simply was no stopping her, EVER. Always up for an adventure, getting into trouble was her favorite thing to do. Life was NEVER boring or normal, she always kept us on our toes... it was wonderful!


          "Life with a dog named Devil" memoirs might be in my future. Oh! The stories I could tell.... I don't even know the half of them though! She went on so many walk abouts... comin' home bleedin' and what not...  I might of even sold my soul to the Devil if that dang dog could have talked : )





Yes... she even pulled the roaster pan off the pantry shelf!!  And mind you,  these two "pantry parties" where only  a couple months before she passed away...crazy sly dog till the end!

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                                                                Cheeky Monkey!!

Due to her lower spine problems she was slowly losing use of her back legs... this was also slowly causing her more and more discomfort. We managed her pain for about a year... but when it became apparent that there were more bad days than good, we knew what we had to do.

                                                         
                                                           A not so good day....


I found myself so angry and bitter at first that this was happening to both of them at them at the same time. Different issues, but both declining together. The decision to euthanize a beloved pet is difficult enough, but to have to do two at the same time... my mind just couldn't process it, I knew my heart wasn't ready for the loss. But we did it, they went together at the exact same time...and I know absolutely with every fiber of my being it was right thing to do. That part I am at peace with.

Here's a poem I wrote about Dev.. 

With a Heavy Heart 


She fell in the pool last night.
It's January.
Her gait isn't what it use to be.
The strapping muscles have left her frame.
It takes 30 minutes and a heating pad to bring calm.
This makes an imprint on my mind...it's getting closer.
You rest at my feet as I write this prose...
You have loved me for 16 years.
You were meant to be mine.
The most sane would not have tolerated your tenacious nature...
you kept me on my toes.
But you give me the purest sense of of unconditional love
I've ever known, and I return it.
I struggle with knowing... that soon... there will be many seconds, of every hour, of every day, of every year of missing you ahead of me...
But you are my true friend.
You have shown me and given me all the love and strength I need to bear it.



We only had them 4 months after I wrote this and as of two days from today...  its been nine months since we lost them and still feels soooo fresh.
We had to leave our dream home and the place they grew up... which cuts deep. We are learning to live in a new strange place with only one of our dogs, but  happy to be together....
This year has to turn a corner, personally and creatively.... I know we are going to be better and stronger for all of this, and I know I have art in me!!! Just waiting to spill out...........




and that's all I got to say about that.....
























4 comments:

  1. I just found your beautiful blog and will most definitely be back to browse and read more. After reading this post about your two beloved dogs, I have to take a break. I have two Maltese that I love with all my heart, and fear this day will come for us one day. Until I got them, I never knew how much you could love one. I am literally typing with tears running down my face. My heart aches for you - may comfort and healing envelope you.

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  2. Dear Sixpence,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to peak into my tiny little peice of blog land :) I am touched by the fact that you relate to this post, I can tell you love your babies to the moon. How old are they and what are their names? Males or females?

    I miss mine desperately still as you can imagine. Axl is my other jack and she is adjusting fine, she is 11 next month and in perfect health, super active and doesn't seem or act her age and I am so grateful for it.

    I truly appreciate your post and hope you stop back in...Happy Spring to you and yours, xo

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  3. I know this is ahead of me withmy precious girls too... hopefully not for a good long time! Love to you Ajae

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    1. Dear Jane, thank you so much for carving out a moment to pop in here. As perhaps you may have noticed I haven't been blogging much... still on hiatus I suppose. Heartbreak can do weird things.

      Been waiting to feel the itch and "get back to the gettin'" as we say in the south. When it feels right I'll know, and your comment left here was a sweet nudge, so thank you for that.

      So happy your babies are happy and healthy... they are precious in your videos :) and I look forward to following your updates on Frida Koalho and hope for a fabulous outcome for her!

      Xo's JaNe

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